The increase in the number of marriages resulting in separation or divorce prompted me to ponder over the reasons why this magic called marriage has suddenly become one of the most ugly face of any society.
Since ages, marriages have been considered sacred and a union of two souls who come together in this lifetime to love and discover each other. When did this relation of soul mates change cannot be known but yes why this sanctity of marriage took a back seat can be understood by a simple fact.
In earlier times say,( around 40-60 years earlier or even 20-40 years) both the genders had limited exposure and needed companionship so they readily agreed for marriage and worked on their love for their spouse which grew in them as a need to feel a sense of belonging.
As times changed and the generations became exposed to the beautiful world of social networking sites, friendship and love became easily accessible. Education and revolution in thoughts also added to this affinity and the physical and mental closeness which earlier could only be fathomed after marriage could be seen coming easy for the youth.
There is no denying that marriages have not lost their charm and still considered as an essential perquisite to happiness but the number of years that a husband and wife spend with each other in bliss has decreased substantially.
The reason being the nagging sensation of inclusion of another human in their private space be it their spouse itself. Till the time the charm remains both husband and wife are pulled towards each other and feel happy but slowly as responsibilities creep in and love becomes a habit both husband and wife drift apart. Responsibilities were there earlier too, love had been a habit earlier too but then husband and wife had nowhere to go except hold on to each other. Now with the increased involvement in the virtual world of fantasy and dream like relations which are available on networking sites, drifting apart has become easy.
Slowly this starts with a mental barrier between the two and then becomes wider by both being pulled away from each other and into their own private world where they feel like their own person; where they do not have to pretend; where they are comfortable and have a wide variety of friends to support them.
So to put it simply, this easy availability of relations in today's world and increased involvement in the virtual world of social sites has become one of the major reasons for marriages taking a back seat and live-in relations becoming popular.
Since ages, marriages have been considered sacred and a union of two souls who come together in this lifetime to love and discover each other. When did this relation of soul mates change cannot be known but yes why this sanctity of marriage took a back seat can be understood by a simple fact.
In earlier times say,( around 40-60 years earlier or even 20-40 years) both the genders had limited exposure and needed companionship so they readily agreed for marriage and worked on their love for their spouse which grew in them as a need to feel a sense of belonging.
As times changed and the generations became exposed to the beautiful world of social networking sites, friendship and love became easily accessible. Education and revolution in thoughts also added to this affinity and the physical and mental closeness which earlier could only be fathomed after marriage could be seen coming easy for the youth.
There is no denying that marriages have not lost their charm and still considered as an essential perquisite to happiness but the number of years that a husband and wife spend with each other in bliss has decreased substantially.
The reason being the nagging sensation of inclusion of another human in their private space be it their spouse itself. Till the time the charm remains both husband and wife are pulled towards each other and feel happy but slowly as responsibilities creep in and love becomes a habit both husband and wife drift apart. Responsibilities were there earlier too, love had been a habit earlier too but then husband and wife had nowhere to go except hold on to each other. Now with the increased involvement in the virtual world of fantasy and dream like relations which are available on networking sites, drifting apart has become easy.
Slowly this starts with a mental barrier between the two and then becomes wider by both being pulled away from each other and into their own private world where they feel like their own person; where they do not have to pretend; where they are comfortable and have a wide variety of friends to support them.
So to put it simply, this easy availability of relations in today's world and increased involvement in the virtual world of social sites has become one of the major reasons for marriages taking a back seat and live-in relations becoming popular.
