Fighting our own disillusionments

There are times in our life when we find ourselves standing at crossroads where we are totally disillusioned. We seem to lose our faith in relationships and all the beautiful feelings that we are blessed to feel.  Love, trust and hope seem to get replaced by anger, hatred and bitterness. 

Whenever we go through such a situation and there is despair all around, one thing that I have learnt is that hope and belief in magical touch pulls us through.

I know it is not easy to face a situation when you have nothing going right for you, but believe me when I say that it is only at these times when we have to realize our internal strength and trust that we will pull through this situation at any cost.

Our loved ones guide us in these times of need, our friends stand there holding our hands, we are given help by everyone around who cares for us but there is only one person who can help you in this time of crisis and that is you yourself.

Don’t go overboard trying to prove to everybody how right you are, don’t go in for self pity but just hang in there and think. Lie alone, go out on drives alone, walk on the beach, listen to music, write your feelings out on a paper but do something.

Some will be judgmental too regarding your decisions, some will agree and go along but the crux is that it is your life and the ultimate decision is yours to make so for that it is essential you believe in yourself and what you are about to do. 

Be firm, do not panic, be at peace with yourself and most importantly stay honest all through and you will have nothing to worry about.

It is a misconception that we should look at the morning sun if we are feeling low and we will get energy to spring back. This is not true as per me. I always look out to the sky at night, when there is stillness and then when I look up to the moon and innumerable starts twinkling brightly, all I wonder is how beautiful this life is and how the moon and stars shine in spite of being overshadowed by the brightness of the sun. Do it tonight and see the magic.

I am sharing this because I have gone through such a situation not long back and believe me, with these little inputs I came out to be a winner. I found solace, happiness and fell in love with myself all over again as a human being because people will only love you if you love yourself first and a broken bitter person is avoided by all.

So get up today and decide that you will come out of your problems in your own unique way and be what you actually want to be, be it a prince or a pauper.

Marriage Myths

The increase in the number of marriages resulting in separation or divorce prompted me to ponder over the reasons why this magic called marriage has suddenly become one of the most ugly face of any society. 
Since ages, marriages have been considered sacred and a union of two souls who come together in this lifetime to love and discover each other. When did this relation of soul mates change cannot be known but yes why this sanctity of marriage took a back seat can be understood by a simple fact.
In earlier times say,( around 40-60 years earlier or even 20-40 years) both the genders had limited exposure and needed companionship so they readily agreed for marriage and worked on their love for their spouse which grew in them as a need to feel a sense of belonging. 
As times changed and the generations became exposed to the beautiful world of social networking sites, friendship and love became easily accessible. Education and revolution in thoughts also added to this affinity and the physical and mental closeness which earlier could only be fathomed after marriage could be seen coming easy for the youth. 
There is no denying that marriages have not lost their charm and still considered as an essential perquisite to happiness but the number of years that a husband and wife spend with each other in bliss has decreased substantially.
The reason being the nagging sensation of inclusion of another human in their private space be it their spouse itself. Till the time the charm remains both husband and wife are pulled towards each other and feel happy but slowly as responsibilities creep in and love becomes a habit both husband and wife drift apart. Responsibilities were there earlier too, love had been a habit earlier too but then husband and wife had nowhere to go except hold on to each other. Now  with the increased involvement in the virtual world of fantasy and dream like relations which are available on networking sites, drifting apart has become easy. 
Slowly this starts with a mental barrier between the two and then becomes wider by both being pulled away from each other and into their own private world where they feel like their own person; where they do not have to pretend; where they are comfortable and have a wide variety of friends to support them.
So to put it simply, this easy availability of relations in today's world and increased involvement in the virtual world of social sites has become one of the major reasons for marriages taking a back seat and live-in relations becoming popular.

Isn't Life Magical?

We all keep writing about social issues, modern era, politics and many other stigmas that affect our tech savvy mind or the essentials to live a comfortable life but when do we ponder over the magic that we live in, every moment. Amidst these highly intellectual discussions and debates I feel lost and simply yearn to ask, “Isn’t life magical?” We have evaluated theories about everything, even death but what about the theories of heart, of feelings?

Whenever I see the beach at night, basking in the light of stars and moon, I walk barefoot on sand, I wonder...
Whenever I see waves creating havoc, coming to the shore and then going back calmly merging again into that sea, I wonder....
Whenever I see the sun rising from unknown and then receding back again to an unknown, I wonder...
Whenever I see a life being born and that first glimpse of awe and happiness on the mother’s face, I wonder….

Whenever I see a life lost and merged into the unsolved black hole, destination of which no one knows, I wonder….
Whenever my heart feels all different kinds of emotions, from where they emerge from I know not, I wonder...

I wonder at this loss of humanity that seems to be etching our hearts where the feelings are dying and we have become robotic or rather mechanical in our pursuits. Is it necessary that people get killed for religion, geographical rights, power and assertion of laws and demented thoughts?

Can’t we prompt, advise, remind, cajole each other to transform our negativity and come out from this mirage of ruthlessness and rather than making compulsive compromises, breathe for once basking in the beauty around?